Hello all! It’s me again, back with a new blog. I was going to wait until tomorrow to do this one, but I have a little down time on my hands today, so why not, right? Riiiiight.
Anyway, as the title suggests, I want to tell you all my opinion of the two. Yes ladies, this means I’m talking to you this week. I’ll get on us men next week, I promise. Everywhere on TV, you see women flaunting around stage or in movies with nothing but a towel on thinking it’s sexy. NO, not at all. That’s SEX-SEE. I know what you’re thinking ladies: “But thrilla, I thought men LIKED us women with barely anything on? That’s the only way we can give you all our attention!” Yes and no. Yes, we like it because we’re men. Of course women parading around in nothing but their birthday suits is going to turn us on. HOWEVER, I disagree with being naked as the only way to get our attention.
You see ladies, we’re not as shallow as you may think we are. Sure, we love sex, but I want you all to think about two things:
1. Let’s use an example: Say you’re one of those women that don’t mind flaunting what you got. I’m talking about the type of woman Carl Carlton sang about (look him up on you tube for the reference, it’s an old song). In your mind, you’re the best thing since sliced bread and all the men are looking at you. You’re only half-right though. Sure, they’re looking at you, but for the wrong reasons. We don’t think you’re sexy; we SEE SEX. Even worse, us men automatically assume three things when you dress like that: A. You’re easy to get B. You’ve “been around” the block a few times (ties in with A) or C. You’re a hooker. That’s just how it is.
“F*ck you, thrilla! You don’t know nothing! If a man thinks he’s getting some, he can look another way! I did this for ME. I KNOW I look good! Haters can kiss my *ss!”
Calm down! I’m only telling you all this from a DECENT man’s point of view. I can tell you’re still not convinced. This brings me to my second opinion:
2. Okay, let’s bring in your current/ex boyfriend, or father. They’re men, so they already know how other men think. Now, in saying that, let’s be honest: WHAT man do you know of wants their woman to go out in public still wearing the stripper costume she wore for him last night, ESPECIALLY without him? Go ahead, I’ll give you a minute. NONE (unless they’re one of those men who likes sex a little TOO much. It happens). Think about it: why DON’T they want you to go out like that? I’ll admit, in some cases, it’s insecurity. There are men out there that worry that their woman will cheat on them if given too much attention from the wrong guys. Unfortunately, that does happen. But most of it is because we don’t want any men getting ideas that you’re available.
When you already have a man that you know truly loves you, why ruin that with another that only approached you because your skirt is too short? That’s why I see a lot of women saying black men ain’t s*it. I agree to an extent, but ONLY the ones YOU’RE attracting, not ALL of us. Just because a man gives you a compliment, that doesn’t mean his intentions are always good. If his eyes are wandering while he talks to you, chances are, he thinks you’re SEX-SEE. He likes what he sees and wants sex. If you fall for him and he’s black, don’t go writing on Facebook saying black men ain’t s*it. You only have yourself to blame.
“True, true. I get what you’re saying, but what about being just plain sexy?”
I was just getting to that! Just recently, I found out about a black woman named Dorothy Dandridge. If none of you know who she was, I’d advise you to do a google search. She was a black woman who lived in the 1950s that unfortunately died from an overdose. I don’t want you all to focus on what she did, but how she looked. When you see her pictures, you won’t find her in some lingerie or in a dress showing off her assets. Even her bathing suits were one pieces. Despite of her beauty, she REFUSED to be the sex symbol that Hollywood wanted her to be. Guess what? She was still considered sexy WITH HER CLOTHES ON. She didn’t have to take off anything to prove herself. She proved to the world that she was more than just a plaything. Now what sounds better ladies: being remembered for who you are or what you looked like? Ask yourselves that before you post pictures on Instagram with your cleavage out.
In fact, I have an experiment for you ladies. What I want you to do is go out and wear the most revealing thing you have for an hour. Go to a public place like the mall and just walk around. Notice how many men approach you or look at you (REMEMBER: DON’T FALL FOR THEIR TRICKS! Trust me, I used to be one of those men). Now, once the hour has passed, go home and change into something much more presentable. Wear LIGHT makeup (DON’T GO CRAZY WITH IT) and go back out in public. See how things change. NOW, if a man STILL wants to approach you after that, hold on to him. A man like that is attracted to you because he thinks you’re SEXY, not SEX-SEE. After that, reel him in with your personality (contrary to belief, sex won’t keep us men. You know that, right? Heck, I’LL admit to that). in conclusion, just remember this Bible verse:
Proverbs 31:10-31- “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
Thank you, and may God bless! See you all next week!
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